bullying....

schama · November 2021

HI all,

pasensiya na po pero need to vent out..5 years na po ako dito pero everytime po na mag jojoging ako somebody will sisigaw sa (habang nag dridrive sila) akin or lalabas po yung kamay nila with a dirty sign,..cguro makita nila na asian ako kay anaisip nila na ganun ganun na lang,like yesterday pagkatapos kong mamalengke at nilalagay koyung food sa car biglang may huminto s agilid ko ko at sumisigaw na "what are you doin"" at tawa. ng tawa mabuti na lang nakapag pigil ako kasi pag hindi baka nasuntok ko...nka experience po ba kayo nito..? sorry won't name the place for privacy...

Desert_Cowboy · November 2021

@schama said:
HI all,

pasensiya na po pero need to vent out..5 years na po ako dito pero everytime po na mag jojoging ako somebody will sisigaw sa (habang nag dridrive sila) akin or lalabas po yung kamay nila with a dirty sign,..cguro makita nila na asian ako kay anaisip nila na ganun ganun na lang,like yesterday pagkatapos kong mamalengke at nilalagay koyung food sa car biglang may huminto s agilid ko ko at sumisigaw na "what are you doin"" at tawa. ng tawa mabuti na lang nakapag pigil ako kasi pag hindi baka nasuntok ko...nka experience po ba kayo nito..? sorry won't name the place for privacy...

Nakakadismaya naman. Pero baka naman isolated case lang yan. Di pa po ako nakarating jan, pero ongoing ung applications ko. Dapat cguro di ka magpapabully pag ganyan. I confront mo cla, or throw them a flying kiss if they flash you the finger.

songhyeky0 · November 2021

Giving the finger I understand. Hindi ko alam kung paano naging bullying ang pagtatanong ng what are you doing tapos tatawa. Hindi naman sa pagiging insensitive pero baka namn they're being playful.

athelene · November 2021

@schama said:
HI all,

pasensiya na po pero need to vent out..5 years na po ako dito pero everytime po na mag jojoging ako somebody will sisigaw sa (habang nag dridrive sila) akin or lalabas po yung kamay nila with a dirty sign,..cguro makita nila na asian ako kay anaisip nila na ganun ganun na lang,like yesterday pagkatapos kong mamalengke at nilalagay koyung food sa car biglang may huminto s agilid ko ko at sumisigaw na "what are you doin"" at tawa. ng tawa mabuti na lang nakapag pigil ako kasi pag hindi baka nasuntok ko...nka experience po ba kayo nito..? sorry won't name the place for privacy...

I'm sorry to hear about your unpleasant experiences. Is where you live a predominantly caucasian community and it's only you who is Asian? While I'm not sure if what you've experienced is really bullying, but if you feel like you're being treated that way because of the way you look, then it would be more like a case of racism, which is not okay. I've seen/heard many Aussies swearing (f#ck this sh#t, etc.) as part of their conversation because that's just part of their culture. I tend to ignore swearing and odd/random behavior as long as hindi ako affected.

Do you recall if the people doing those things to you are the same people or iba-iba? Are they adults or teenagers/young adults? Try to observe from now on kung sino sila, baka pinagtitripan ka lang. May mga kabataan who will try to get away with disrespecting people just because they can and they know they won't get in trouble for it.

As long as you feel that you are not in danger physically (like you feel like they might hurt you), it might be best to ignore them, or change your routine/patterns to avoid interacting with them at certain times/days. If they escalate to the point that you feel unsafe, then you may have cause to report them to the police (hopefully you have a photo or video of them so you have evidence to show the police what happened).

schama · November 2021

@songhyeky0 I think you can define what is bullying and being playful...what you gonna do pag kasama mo family mo then biglang may papara (stop) sa gilid mo at sisigawan ka (literally) ng what are you doing at ang mg kasama nya tinatawanan ka sa harapan mo..commonsense willl tell us di po yan playful because at first you didn't know each other ..kung sa workplace nga pag sinigawan mo yung kasama mo considered na yang bullying at kasama mo pa yan sa work.cguro in your case bullying na pag hinampas ka na ng beer sa ulo ng mga puti.
And about swearing I don't have an issue because that's their culture..we'll anyway mayron tayong sariling pananaw sa ibat-ibang sitwasyun..and thanks for those who give their comment..

songhyeky0 · November 2021

@schama said:
@songhyeky0 I think you can define what is bullying and being playful...what you gonna do pag kasama mo family mo then biglang may papara (stop) sa gilid mo at sisigawan ka (literally) ng what are you doing at ang mg kasama nya tinatawanan ka sa harapan mo..commonsense willl tell us di po yan playful because at first you didn't know each other ..kung sa workplace nga pag sinigawan mo yung kasama mo considered na yang bullying at kasama mo pa yan sa work.cguro in your case bullying na pag hinampas ka na ng beer sa ulo ng mga puti.
And about swearing I don't have an issue because that's their culture..we'll anyway mayron tayong sariling pananaw sa ibat-ibang sitwasyun..and thanks for those who give their comment..

There are many "unknowns" that you did not mention to begin with. Don't blame me because you're too sensitive. I'm only giving my opinion based on what you just said.

Captain_A · November 2021

@schama said:
HI all,

pasensiya na po pero need to vent out..5 years na po ako dito pero everytime po na mag jojoging ako somebody will sisigaw sa (habang nag dridrive sila) akin or lalabas po yung kamay nila with a dirty sign,..cguro makita nila na asian ako kay anaisip nila na ganun ganun na lang,like yesterday pagkatapos kong mamalengke at nilalagay koyung food sa car biglang may huminto s agilid ko ko at sumisigaw na "what are you doin"" at tawa. ng tawa mabuti na lang nakapag pigil ako kasi pag hindi baka nasuntok ko...nka experience po ba kayo nito..? sorry won't name the place for privacy...

San ka located in Australia?

schama · December 2021

songhyeky0..sorry but I'm not a typical pinoy na binubully na ...di lang iimik at mag smile lang and pretending to be ok...and saying "don't mind" baka sabihin sensitive ka...or over acting....if taht is your attitude..then "good for you"...It's true di ko nasabi na mayrong pang unknows in my first statement (due to i pissed off that time) but d ibig sabihin na d ka na ma alarm..whether I got family with me or not ,but the direction points you that way..I think you should alarm..if you care.." or you scared to yell out"

schama · December 2021

or you scared to yell out" bcoz you might charged of being sensitive ...

Admin · December 2021

haha, hindi sa OZ experience, last 10yrs ago sa US, nag visit kame sa outlet store sa San Francisco Premium Outlets. Nasa labas kame ng baby ko nakaupo ako sa bench while nasa stroller baby ko facing the road/parking . then may isa groupo ng amerikong maitim na nasa kotse na dahan dahan dumaan sa harap namin at sumigaw, "Hey! Jackie chan, sabay dirty finger." ignore lang kahit nag titimpi ako sa galit. bisita lang kame e no choice. iba talaga pag d mo bansa ang tingin sayo maliit. yuko lang at ignore.

Admin · December 2021

Oh las time we visited sa AU, papunta sa blue mountains, nag stop by ung tour guide namin sa isang place for breakfast, then sumaglit ako sa coles. Sinungitan ako nung batang cashier na Aussie na blonde ang buhok. Una d cya kumikibo nag aantayan kame. tapos she 🤷‍♀️ shrugged and asked what?
D ko naman kasi alam na pag bumili ksa sa supermarket dapat mo alisin mga pinamili mo sa basket. so sagot ko "yes?" . then sinugitan ako at sabi "take it out of the basket" habang tinuturo ung basket ko 😒. D ko alam kung sensitive lang ako haha. pero ngiti lang at sabi ko "Sorry, Sorry"

Pero ung matanda na kasunod ko, biglang iba ng mood very polite. Sabi ng friend ko, Chinese look daw kasi ako, at panget ang tingin ng karamihan ng local sa mga instik.

Jacraye · December 2021

@schama said:
HI all,

pasensiya na po pero need to vent out..5 years na po ako dito pero everytime po na mag jojoging ako somebody will sisigaw sa (habang nag dridrive sila) akin or lalabas po yung kamay nila with a dirty sign,..cguro makita nila na asian ako kay anaisip nila na ganun ganun na lang,like yesterday pagkatapos kong mamalengke at nilalagay koyung food sa car biglang may huminto s agilid ko ko at sumisigaw na "what are you doin"" at tawa. ng tawa mabuti na lang nakapag pigil ako kasi pag hindi baka nasuntok ko...nka experience po ba kayo nito..? sorry won't name the place for privacy...

Whatever the the reason is, it's not worth na patulan sila. Unless what they are doing is life threatening then that's the time you do something about it.

I know the feeling na laging nagtitimpi, lalo na kung sa pilipinas e palaban ka. Pero imagine the consequences kung patulan mo sila. baka katakutakot na problema at stress lang lalo yan.

Pag-pray mo na lang sila =D

haringkingking · December 2021

Ingat na lang palagi pards, wag mo na patulan. In any country naman, like even here in Korea, ramdam mo 'yung pambubully/pang-discriminate talaga sa Pinoy. Mahirap ding patulan kasi mapapasama ka pa lalo. They have their own culture/personality na iba rin talaga sa ating mga Pinoy.

Kaya sabi nga ni @Jacraye, ipag-pray mo na lang sila.

robinsyreyes · December 2021

Relax lang bro, hindi maiwasan na may ma encounter na d*ck**d paminsan minsan. Aside from the white boy mentality, druggies and difference in culture, some of them have nothing to lose so they vent it out on anyone. Natural na ma highblood sa mga ganyang cases pero its not worth the fight. Kung pa ulit ulit na and same people report mo na lang. Cheers bro.

mathilde9 · December 2021

Most of these people are "projecting" lalo yung mga black. So be the bigger man nalang. Ignore hangga't kaya. Mahirap eh, lugar nila yan.

kramkramkram · December 2021

Nun nasa elementary,highschool at college ako sa pilipinas, meron mga schoolmate/classmate na galing overseas. Mga anak ng expat, missionaries and some half filipinos. Nakakatanggap din sila ng pagbubully at discrimination sa mga kapwa natin pinoy. May mga sitwasyon na galing pa sa mga magulang ng mga estudyante ang diskriminasyon. Bullying at discrimination ay nangyayari kahit saan. Madalas nagiging aware lang tayo pag against sa atin.

wizardofOz · December 2021

Personally wala pa kong na-experience na bullying dito, yung tipong pambabastos or demeaning acts... siguro dahil may naeexude akong awra na may pagka-halang ang kaluluwa ko kaya takot sila hehehe... by the way taga Tondo pala ako..

pero kidding aside, meron akong mga 2 occasions na it's more of getting picked on (bullying na ba yun?) by the same person sa work na medyo matagal na sa kumpanya (30yrs na ata sya)..... but I think ginagawa nya yun to everybody....

pero syempre since halang nga ang kaluluwa ko.... I make sure na papalag ako pero yung tipong at a higher stance ng pagpatol kasi engineer ako (i.e. professional pa din ang dating) at sya naman hindi... so I put her in her right place para magtigil sya hehehe